Comments on: A Love Letter to the Citizens of Lane County http://www.nurturingenvironments.org/2010/05/02/a-love-letter-to-the-citizens-of-lane-county/ Promoting the spread of nurturing environments. Tue, 12 Mar 2013 23:16:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Hekate http://www.nurturingenvironments.org/2010/05/02/a-love-letter-to-the-citizens-of-lane-county/comment-page-1/#comment-2161 Hekate Mon, 03 May 2010 21:41:04 +0000 http://www.nurturingenvironments.org/?p=191#comment-2161 As I read this post, I was accompanied by two internal commentators--one saying, "excellent, excellent" and the other saying: "yes, but.....". (It's always noisy here in my head and we rarely all agree.) Further consideration provided this analysis: I want to be part of that most fertile of experiences, the group that lays down its slogans and gets to work fixing problems. I have experienced it and it approaches having children for its ecstasy and its agony. Perhaps what is needed is a designated midwife--someone who recognizes the pain of the process, supports the labor, suggests strategies to mitigate the difficulty and helps the group stay focused on what we are bringing to birth. Such a midwife would be there to assist the process. The midwife would not create the outcome any more than a traditional midwife would raise the baby. I've often found myself so caught up in making a point or in the beauty of my own speech that I was oblivious to the way I was effecting others. A sensitive midwife to refocus me/us on what we are here for would have saved me hours of post-meeting remorse AND we would have gotten a LOT MORE accomplished. As I read this post, I was accompanied by two internal commentators–one saying, “excellent, excellent” and the other saying: “yes, but…..”. (It’s always noisy here in my head and we rarely all agree.) Further consideration provided this analysis:

I want to be part of that most fertile of experiences, the group that lays down its slogans and gets to work fixing problems. I have experienced it and it approaches having children for its ecstasy and its agony. Perhaps what is needed is a designated midwife–someone who recognizes the pain of the process, supports the labor, suggests strategies to mitigate the difficulty and helps the group stay focused on what we are bringing to birth. Such a midwife would be there to assist the process. The midwife would not create the outcome any more than a traditional midwife would raise the baby.

I’ve often found myself so caught up in making a point or in the beauty of my own speech that I was oblivious to the way I was effecting others. A sensitive midwife to refocus me/us on what we are here for would have saved me hours of post-meeting remorse AND we would have gotten a LOT MORE accomplished.

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