Archive for September, 2011

David Sloan Wilson’s New Book

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

There is a new book by my friend and colleague David Sloan Wilson.  It is The Neighborhood Project: Using Evolution to Improve My City One Block at a Time. It is beautifully written and tells the story of how he has used his considerable knowledge of evolution to develop ways to help improve the quality of life—and the success of young people—in Binghamton, New York.

I am mentioned in the book, so I may be biased.  But if you are looking for a book that is a fun read, explains a lot about evolution, and tells you how we might use scientific knowledge to make our communities more nurturing, I highly recommend this book.

A Mindful Moment

Monday, September 12th, 2011

One of the nurturing practices that is spreading through society is mindfulness.  A preschool special education teacher, Valerie Alexander, who works with my wife sent her the following.  I thought it was such a touching example of being mindful that I wanted to share it.  And, so with her permission, I do.

Today, as i was feeding my mom at her nursing home, I witnessed an interesting situation play out.  Ming, an elderly Asian gentleman was done with lunch and was meeting his son for an appt.  Ming is a little confused at times. He is a really smiley, friendly man.  One of the aides was helping him “hurry” so he wouldn’t be late for his appt.  The more she rushed, the more panicked he looked.  As I watched him, he kept trying to “use his card” to pay for his lunch (clearly a remnant of his life before…).  She (the aide) just kept saying, “No Ming. You don’t need a card. No Ming. Come on, you don’t want to be late”, over and over and over.  When his son finally arrived.  They wheeled him over to see his son. He glanced and smiled at him, but seemed distracted.  He kept looking at where he had been sitting.  I could see it.  He wanted to go and put his “card” down to pay for his lunch.  While the aide and his son were chatting about his day, he started to try and stand up, he was going to pay for that lunch! Then, “No Ming.  No, no, no…Sit down!  What are you doing?  You silly.”  He tried at least three times.  Each time, no one tried to look in the direction his eyes were focused at to see what he might be thinking.  So very much like what we do.  We get in a hurry. We get focused on an unbending agenda and we miss an opportunity to connect.  Imagine if they would’ve looked at where he was focused and could’ve said, “Ohhhh, you want to pay with your card, don’t you? (he nods) Look, today it’s already been paid for.  It was free today.  How does that sound?” Smile.

Nurturing Youth Development in Atlanta

Saturday, September 3rd, 2011

Yolonda Reid and Cornelia King have recently taken responsibility for developing after school activities in the Grant Park Recreation Center, one of 33 public recreation centers in Atlanta.  Their work is part of Mayor Kasim Reed’s efforts to make the recreation centers the foundation for outstanding youth development in Atlanta.

Dennis Embry and I joined Chaundrissa Smith, Emilie Smith (no relation), and Will Aldridge in meeting with Yolonda and Cornelia to see if we could help them make their effort a success.  Emilie is an expert on how to use the Good Behavior Game in after-school programs. Dennis and I were particularly interested in seeing if we could help develop youth activities that could build youth skill and cooperation at the same time that the increased social cohesion in neighborhoods.

But when Yolanda described one of the activities she has already done with youth teams, I realized that I was more likely to learn something new than to provide them with new ideas.

She handed out a beautifully illustrated, spiral bound book titled, Bridging the Gap: Skills of the Elderly Rediscovered and Retold by the Youth of Butts County. It gives 60 recipes, as well as skills for work around the house, in the yard, in the garage, for life, and just for fun. You can learn to bake cornbread, wash clothes, plant a garden, prune fruit trees, get over depression (“Get out of the house to get out of your misery”), fish, make a quilt, swing a golf club, change the oil in a car, or change windshield wipers.

The book was produced by the students of the class of 2013 of Henderson Middle School. One hundred and fifteen students worked on it. Most interviewed an older person about a specific recipe or skill and wrote up instructions for it. Others designed the layout and the artwork for the book. The project was guided by Yolanda, Angela Johnson, Sherrie Gray, and Sheryl George.

How many ways does this build the community?  Elderly people, many of whom are alone and isolated, get a pleasant visit from a young person.  Many young people make a new friend. Young people learn new skills. Youth and adults work together, thus undercutting fear and suspicion that many adults may have about young people. The whole community gets to see what their youth can do. And the book becomes a resource for hundreds of homes in the community.

Efforts like this are budding all over the country thanks to the skills and concepts being disseminated by the National Service-Learning Clearinghouse. This is just one example of the many ways that our society is evolving to nurture the wellbeing of young people.